One of the main quests in life for a woman is to find the right man that she can not only love but be happy and content with, and actually like. Fishing for a man can bring in a lot of catches on the hook, but most need to be thrown back in, not because of any flaw on the man’s part, but because they simply are not right for you.
In order to be successful in finding the right man, a woman first needs to know herself and she needs to love herself. Loving yourself is paramount to a relationship working out. Knowing who you are, your likes and dislikes, your feelings about various things, and your own personality are key factors necessary for a healthy relationship. Generally speaking, you want a man that matches your personality.
That sounds easy enough, but it’s not that simple. Too often both men and women bottle up their emotions, their feelings, their thoughts. Maybe it’s for fear of rejection, maybe they are afraid to share how they truly feel, maybe they don’t even know how to share, maybe they are just scared to love again after past hurts. Whatever the reason, in order for a relationship to work, both parties have to be open and be themselves so that who they are shines through, rather than hidden behind a wall.
The kind of man you want should be someone that accepts you for who you are and loves you as you are. He doesn’t want to change you. He doesn’t criticize your looks. He doesn’t make you feel inferior or that you aren’t good enough. He loves you as you are, loves your personality, loves everything about you. He is open and honest with you. He won’t tell you what you want to hear, he will tell you the truth. He’s understanding and considerate, and he listens when you share your intimate thoughts and feelings with him.
The next thing to consider when fishing for a man is everyday life. A woman should look for a man that she can share daily life experiences with. If you aren’t whatsoever into outdoor activities, chances are that you will not be happy with a man that lives to camp, fish, hike, or climb mountains. If you absolutely love the opera and he hates it, that’s workable. If you cannot live without making every opera ever performed, and he hates it, you might want to look for a man that loves the opera. If he loves home cooked meals and you are allergic to the kitchen, you might want to look for a man that is into takeout and eating out. If you want wild monkey sex every single day and think sex is all there is to life and he isn’t all that into sex, you might want to look for a monkey instead of a man.
Compatibility is necessary for a happy and healthy relationship. But to be compatible, you simply must know yourself and be yourself. Being true to yourself will allow you to hook the right man, the one that is compatible with your personality.
We all want to be loved and accepted. But too often we want it so bad that we settle for anyone, even if we love them and they love us. Unfortunately, just loving someone isn’t a reason to marry them. The reason is that even though it might be love, if the personalities clash, it won’t last. A woman wants to find a man that fits her.
While there are always exceptions to this, in general a woman wants to fish for a man that is a fit for how she thinks and feels, that loves her for who she is in all ways, that has the same likes and dislikes for the most part, that she can share her intimate thoughts with, and that she can trust.
If however you are only fishing for a man that’s got money and material things, it’s best to throw the fishing pole away right now. The last thing a woman should ever do is look for a man to take care of her financially. That is the most wrong reason there can be to look for a man. If you’re not in it for love and for the man, don’t be in it. Not only is it wrong, it’s not going to work. Men shouldn’t be used or hurt, and to want one only so that he will take care of you is just plain wrong. Money can be gone in a heartbeat, and it doesn’t keep you warm at night like love does.
On the other side of the coin is the man that only wants a woman for her looks. If the man you are interested in is only into looks and uses you for a trophy on his arm, throw him back and look for one that loves the real you, the real you that’s underneath the skin. If he doesn’t like who you are as a person, throw him back and look for one that loves you for you. Looks fade, but real beauty stays because it’s underneath the skin.
In order to hook the man that’s right for you, get to know yourself. Go fishing for the man that makes your heart smile, that is always there, that loves who you are, that makes you laugh, that’s honest with you, and that know how you like your chocolate.
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